We Need White People.

“We need white people in South Africa,” his words exactly. “If not, the country will go down like Zimbabwe.” That’s what our Uber driver told us as we drove to Groots Winery in CapeTown. “Look on the other side of the highway. Do you see any black faces driving cars?”, he asked us. “If you…

My Dad is Ruining My Marriage.

Hey Vulnerabites, We were playing tag in the hallways of a family clinic. All of the staff members were outside attending to the free community clinic fair. He seemingly appeared out of thin air, interrupting my bee-line focus to tag my fellow 9 year old. I was semi-laughing from excitement and trying to catch my…

Why I Hate Vision Boards.

  Hey Vulnerabites, I’ve just pissed off a few life coaches and motivational speakers with that title 🙂 So — it’s 2019. For the last couple of years, at the start of every new year, I would decide on my top 10 goals and create a vision board to accompany it. This Year? I haven’t…

I’m Doing Life All Wrong.

Hey Vulnerabites, I walked through the circle and headed towards the last available seat. As I sought to quickly sift through my tote bag for my note book, before I could even put my bag down, I heard him say, “Oh great Mac! You’ll go first!” —- What the?!?!? Bruh, I’m just trying to find my…

Is it ok for Christians to Masturbate?

Hey Vulnerabites, Soooo …. my last blog was a hot tamale! The proof is in the comments 🙂 With that being said, a new question emerged in the comments and I’m here to create a space to engage in discussion around it. In one word…. M.A.S.T.U.R.B.A.T.I.O.N. Straight from the mouths of my Vulnerabites: 1.) “To…

How Church Taught Me to Orgasm.

Hey Vulnerabites, Sorry for the uncomfortable title, but y’all know how I do. Go ahead and scroll up, so no one will flash judgmental stares your way. Let’s get right into it. “The Female Orgasm” episode on Netflix’s Explained Docuseries is where it’s at. Spoiler Alert Below! Here’s what I learned: My clit is my best…

How Church Has Failed Me.

Hey Vulnerabites, Y’all know I have this love-hate relationship with the saints — but after watching this interview with Dr.Caroline Leaf, it became clear that my frustrations are not with the saints per say, but with the “churchy ways” of religion that I’ve been programmed to believe were the only way to be fully Christian,…

When is it Ok to Leave My Marriage?

Hey Vulnerabites, Her husband needed help. She called me crying, begging to stay the night at my apartment. She was family, “of course you can come boo.” One night turned into a week. “Honey, you have to go back home and deal with this. You can’t just stay with me forever.” A few months later,…

Why I Don’t Have Deep Friendships.

Ooooo Vulnerabites, let’s get into it! “Mac, I open up about my marriage, but I don’t feel like you do the same.” She shared her marital frustrations with me, and here came the golden question, “Girl, am I trippin?” — In short, I responded, “Maybe y’all should try counseling.” Ouch! There was no empathy, only…

Should I Tell Friends My Husband Cheated?

Hey Vulnerabites! We exchanged messages for about 2 hours before we decided that it’s best she not bring up the real issue with this woman again and resolve the new state of their friendship with a casual acquaintance. Now, y’all know I’m a firm believer in confrontation  —at least if you care about the relationship— but quite frankly,…