I Can’t Relate.

My guest writer received so much love! Thank you to everyone who read, shared and took a moment to comment. I was so inspired that she received such love from all of you! It was an excellent reminder that we are all walking through experiences that others can also see themselves in. In response to my guest writer’s post, a reader has written in to share her thoughts. Let’s tune in as she offers a perspective from the other side of the coin! Enjoy!

Dear Guest Writer,

I can not relate…

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I am a single mom of two children, who are 6 years apart with different fathers. Neither of whom have played an active role in our lives. In order to make ends meet, I have to find clarity between what I love to do and think about how it will be beneficial for my family, so that I am never leaving my children without. I have to think about these things when making such a decision because in the end I don’t think it should be about me as a parent and what I want, it’s about how will my children be affected as they grow older and sometimes these decisions can be hard to make. I have friends who grew up in a working home and friends who grew up in a home where one parent was always present, and I can say that both groups of people end up on different ends of the spectrum. My friends  who grew up with stay at home parents will follow that path…and my friends who grew up with working parents are inclined to follow that path.

My friend who grew up with a stay at home mom, has a hard time working because she wants to stay at home with her daughter. That was all she knew and how she was raised. She later realized that she wasn’t able to do that even if her husband worked. She struggled for a long time trying to figure out what her passion was and had an emotionally hard time putting her daughter into childcare. The life our parents once lived does not mean that is the life we are also going to live. Mom may have scored in the sense that she fell in love with someone who had a good paying job and supports her staying at home. While on the other hand, her daughter may not be afforded the same opportunity. That then results in a roller coaster of emotions both mentally and physically because that is all her daughter knew… Mommy stays home and daddy works.

I am able to understand stay at home parents a little clearer now and can keep an open mind to that fact that our purpose does not have to just be creating a life outside of the home. Whatever choice we make in life whether it is to stay home or work is not wrong, we just have to look at the pros and cons and make the best choice for our family.

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See you in my next blog 🙂

 

 

6 Comments Add yours

  1. aseekerfinds says:

    I love that both perspectives of this conversation are featured on this blog.

    Reading this post made me wonder about what it takes to bring someone to one end of the spectrum, if they started at the opposite end. For example, I grew up in a home where both of my parents worked – but I have extended family members who are able to have one parent (usually the woman) as a homemaker, while they other has a day/night job. I grew up recognizing the beauty and importance of the investment a parent makes who chooses to be a homemaker. But I also grew up with the knowledge and example that this isn’t always financially feasible.

    I think I tend to agree with this writer – and it’s also proven that children often follow many of the pathways established in the place(s) where they grew up. I definitely think I take being a working mom as the default, since that is what I saw growing up. But I’m more likely to recognize and accept the alternative, because I’ve grown with examples of moms who didn’t have a standard 9a-5p.

    Also makes me wonder where homemakers with a hustle land on this spectrum! Do homemakers who don’t bring in income see these ladies/men as homemakers? Or are they considered as people who work from home? Does it depend on how much the person is working (5-10 hrs/week vs. 30 hours sporadically each month)…How does this impact children’s perspectives on being a homemaker vs. working full-time? IDK. Just musing.

    But I’m going to stop writing now. 🙂

    Shout out to both guest writers! Your vulnerability – in sharing your story honestly and in speaking up, period – encourages me to be real with others! I’ve needed your perspectives!

    Girl. I need to stop writing books and go do my homework! Lol.

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    1. Thank you for this dissertation… and thank you for Blog Part 3 to continue this series! lol

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  2. Vanessa says:

    There is truth to this. Both my patents worked and we were bounced around to many babysitters. But this made us more independent and self sufficient. If I become a parent I would most likely work as well.

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    1. Thanks for sharing Vanessa!

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  3. Thank you for sharing your perspective, guest writer! I love the sharing of different ideas and points of views on this blog! It truly shows that we are all on our unique journeys! There is so much beauty in all of us sharing life together here 🙂

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    1. Indeed… Unique journeys! 🙂

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