I’m showing my a**

Hey Vulnerabites,

Lesson One: “The higher you climb, the more a** you show.” (sorry to be crass).

I literally burst out laughing when I read her text, because I couldn’t link the gentle soul of my 60-something year old, Halle Berry prototype, mentor of mine sending me this kind of message.

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She was pointing out that as I begin to serve in the community people would begin to listen and watch me in a way they haven’t before. Even if I never know who they are, I should keep in mind that “they’re watching.” A life of public service is not for the faint of heart.

Little ol’ me…. my words from years ago, carried weight today.Wow! I was a senior in college for crying out loud.

Long story short, my interview from 8 years ago was with Ebony magazine about my hopes for Obama’s presidency, and today I was being asked to share my thoughts as he leaves office next week. I just got off the phone with a reporter from my local newspaper and he gently, yet firmly read my words back to me.

So here’s where I was challenged in my interview today…

  1. Being able to say something that is authentically me, yet leaving room for my future self (possibly 8 years from now) that may feel differently than I do today.
  2. Being vulnerable, yet still politically correct.
  3. Being honest without offending an entire community of people at the same time.

We’ll see how the story turns out! *holding my breath* If you’re in the neighborhood, pick up Sunday’s paper and look for me in the business section. I’ll be looking for me too!

So here’s my Lesson 1 take away: Anything I say or do in the public sphere, will never go away. Period.

Be the Me, that the “Future Me” would be proud of 🙂

Yours Vulnerably,

The Naked Writer.

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14 Comments Add yours

  1. #2 says:

    Chewing on…

    “Being vulnerable, yet still politically correct.” – Work in progress. Kudos to the Obamas for leading by example in this way.

    “Being honest without offending an entire community of people at the same time.”

    In the past I felt like I shied away from expressing my “real” thoughts on public spaces because of fear of being disliked, misinterpreted, or wrongly perceived.

    We’ve seen the rise and fall of others because of things they’ve said in the past or present.

    I’m growing in this area and learning how to balance that space…


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    1. Yep! Growing and Learning how to balance that space! 😌


  2. Yes, indeedee!!! (Phenomenal article, btw!😬) On my way home today, I was thinking about how there are SO MANY things in life I wish came with manuals! Lol. And then…”seek wisdom, seek understanding…” popped into my head, and I was like, OK Jesus, I hear You! Haha. But EVERY DAY presents new challenges and new opportunities to learn something new! And I loved that you shared this! It’s so important to make time to ponder about the experiences we encounter, and to actively see the lessons to be learned through them! YOU GO GIRLLLL!!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

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    1. And then…”seek wisdom, seek understanding…” …. YYYEEESSSSSS!!!!


  3. Sistah inspire says:

    Yes first impressions only come once but who’s calling the shots here?!

    Such a fine line between being mindful of your current words and imagining what your future self would think of how you are presently feeling/thinking!
    This blog leads me to reflect on past choices and whether or not people have forgotten or will forgive my past decisions! But in the midst of trying to be wise and mindful of the future, my heart reminds me that I don’t live in the past anymore! I am here and it is now that matters! After all, those who matter don’t mind and those who mind don’t matter!

    So yes @nakedwriter, there is room for grace and forgiveness at my table!

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    1. Yes! We don’t live in the past anymore. Thank you for that gentle reminder!

      Those who matter don’t mind!!!! Yes ma’am! 🙂


  4. heavenbc says:

    Be the Me, that the “Future Me” would be proud of 🙂

    I like that…. because sometimes I look back at some of the stuff I used to post on FB and I’m like …. WHY?!?!?? …. and some of the stuff I find I’m embarrassed about now or I just think So much differently that I used to. Things like FB and Timehop really has a way of making you feel like an idiot when they share your old posts from the past.

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    1. Omg Heaven!!!! My literary hero! You’re here! And you’re reading! Wow! See? This is what I’m talking about… lol


      1. heavenbc says:

        Lol! Your literary hero?!?!? 😳 … meanwhile I’m like … DAYUM this girl is an amazing writer! And yes! I’m here! I read these posts when they hit my inbox. Don’t always comment but I’m reading. 😉 … keep em coming!

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        1. Yes! Your IG captions used to have me rolling! 😂 Back in my social media days 😏

          That means a lot!

          Thank you Heaven 💖

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  5. katsiaa says:

    Note to self… leave room for my future self! I laugh at some of the ideas and beliefs that I once had. Scripture tells us to be quick to listen, slow to speak… I’ll keep this word of wisdom in my back pocket for the sake of future me. Great advice, thanks for sharing!

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    1. Slow to speak! That’s it right there 😌


  6. Joelle says:

    Very true! I was talking with someone about a person that is stepping up in the community, of whom I have reservations because of what I know about that person. It reminded me of that old saying “You only get one chance to make a first impression.” What you did (and said) years ago will be the way people perceive you for years. It takes a long time for people to overcome their perception of you (if ever.) Being reminded that if you intend to ever be in the public eye, be careful what you say and do, for they are truly “watching, and listening” is always good advice.

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    1. Wow! You’re absolutely right… only one time to make a first impression… but I must ask, when is it ok for us to be gracious to someone’s past self? And dare I say, Forgive Them 🤔


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