My Husband Likes It, My Parents Don’t.

Hey Vulnerabites!

I have a sincere interest in human connection. I read about it, I talk about it and I write about it.

I want to explore my interest for human connection with this pilot project called “Mondays with Mac”. You ask questions, I answer — only on Mondays. So send in your questions to thenakedwriterblog@gmail.com, DM me on Instagram @yoursvulnerably, if you have my number, send me a text.

 

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Let’s Connect on Instagram @YoursVulnerably

Here’s our first question:

“My husband and I are attending a wedding this weekend. It’s out of town and we’ll be staying with my family. I bought this gorgeous dress for the wedding, but it has a slit that goes up to the middle of my thigh. I’m afraid my parents will be very upset, but my husband likes it. What should I do? Should I buy another dress or get dressed in a place where my folks won’t see me.”

Hey Vulnerabite! The short answer: Wear your dress and let your parents see you.

Let me begin by saying that it is admirable that you want to consider your parents feelings, especially seeing that you are staying with them. However their opinion can no longer be the one that holds the priority in your life.

Your husband’s opinion matters above theirs.

You are his wife first, their daughter second. You must always remember that order when you are torn between the two.

You have to help your loved ones respect the position your husband has in your life as the leader of his family. You are his family. So, if your husband likes it, they must take a step back and allow him to enjoy the wife of his youth.

“Leave and cleave.”  Leaving your family is not simply physically leaving their home but also leaving behind the need to abide by your parents rules.

Your parents have to trust that they raised you to be an exceptional member of society. They will always have your best interest at heart and their counsel to you will come from that place, but they must give you the freedom to make your own decisions.

Christ died for us, yet still gives us free will.

I hope you find freedom in whatever decision you make.

PS. I hope you and the hubby enjoy the wedding! 🙂

Let’s Connect on Instagram @YoursVulnerably

Vulnerabites! Your perspective has value. What do you think? … I’m here for the comments 🙂 

 

Yours Vulnerably,

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12 Comments Add yours

  1. Kaje Marie says:

    You nailed it! I totally agree. I will say that I do value my parent’s opinions, although after reading this I realized that I don’t really seek it out anymore. But for something like attire, in one ear and out the other. I don’t dress for them 🤣

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    1. Hahhaaaa… I hear you!

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  2. J says:

    Agree with the above comments…nothing new to add.

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  3. I agree. I think you nailed it. While it’s nice to consider our parents’ opinions, after you get married, your husband’s opinions come first.

    Mondays with Mac have a nice ring to it! You mean, we can send us any question we want and you will answer all of them?!

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    1. Thanks!!! It does have a nice ring to it!!! lol —- Well, if you ask me what color my panties are —- I’m not sure an answer to that would benefit the Vulnerabites …lol. But yeah, I’ll answer almost any question 🙂

      Do I hear about 10 questions coming from you Yaa Yaa? lol

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        1. Bahahahaaaaaa!!! Looking forward to it! You have the best questions!

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  4. Beutiflee says:

    Welcome back! I love this project, Girl! To answer your question. I personally don’t think it’s anyone opinion on what you wear, but I’m speaking from a single gal mindset. However, I do agree with Mac. You leave and cleave to your husband and vice versa. Parents need to see their children as adults. The roles change. Although you are their daughter, they have to respect your decisions. At times step aside, put their opinions to rest. Advice is one thing but being told what to do is belittling one’s character.
    Since your husband is in agreement with you, then you have all the support you need. 👏🏼👏🏼 Plus, you value his opinion over the family, is the order of things. I’m sure your parents may not even say anything. But stay strong in your decision and by your husband support. This is where you create healthy boundaries. God will handle the rest. 😉

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    1. Tiffany honey!!! “Parents need to see their children as adults.” — And this is the difficult transition for parents …. when their children go to college, get married and even have children. But to give parents credit, their advice comes from a good place 🙂

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      1. Beutiflee says:

        Yes very true. I remember I heard someone share something their parent said to them, “I am confident I raise you right, to make the right decisions and lead a right life. However, since you’re an adult now, any mistakes you make is not a reflection on me as your parent. Those mistakes will fall onto you, because you are an adult now.”

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        1. Rrriiiggghhhtttt!!!! You’ve hit on something very good! I think that parents struggle with being judged for their children’s decisions, even after they become adults. Very good point! Thanks for sharing that!

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